We have witnessed in recent years a troubling distortion of the reality of
love that has taken a deep hold in Western society, not only in the general
culture of the day but also in the thoughts of many individual people. This
distortion of the truth, and even the purpose of love, has been raised to new
heights because of the legal attempts to redefine traditional marriage to
include the so-called unions of two men or of two women. Sadly, such a
redefinition of traditional marriage unfortunately was made law by our U.S.
Supreme Court.
Those who insist on this redefinition of marriage claim to do so “out of love.”
They ask, “Should anyone be denied the right to love another person?” The
answer, of course, is no, provided that we have a true definition of love, such as is given us by St. Paul in
this Sunday’s 2nd Reading at Mass. This passage is frequently
proclaimed at wedding ceremonies: that when a man is joined to his wife, the
two become one flesh, because at the heart of marriage, as at the heart of every
Christian life, is love (Gen. 2:24). At the beginning of this passage, Paul
tells us to “strive eagerly for the greatest spiritual gifts” (I Cor. 12:31);
and at its conclusion, he tells us what the greatest spiritual gift is: “the
greatest of these is love” (I Cor. 13:13).
Consider this key and fundamental question: What is love? We may say that love is a feeling that we experience,
an emotion; but it is also much more than a sentiment. Emotions come and go,
like so many “friendships” in life, and sometimes they deceive us. It sometimes
happens that we perceive to have been slighted by someone when no slight was intended
or even done to us. We then become angry with friends, or even family members; but
while we feel anger towards them and not necessarily affection, it doesn’t mean
that our love for them has ceased.
Rather than being an emotion, love is a choice.
Love is a choice for the good of another person. Love is also the desire to act
so as to obtain the good for another person. Love, then, is not so much an
emotion as it is an act of the will; it is a decision to act in a certain way,
not simply a feeling over which we have no control.
We understand that what is good is not sinful and what is sinful is not good.
Authentic love, then, never encourages sin or leads a person further into sin. Instead,
it seeks to help another live a holy life. Love seeks to lead a person further
away from sin and closer to the truth. And we know that truth is not just a
thing, but a person, Jesus,
who tells us, “I am the way and the truth and the life” (Jn 14:6). So one who truly
loves seeks to lead the beloved always closer to Jesus, to Him who is not only
the Good Shepherd but is, as St. Thomas Aquinas teaches us, Goodness itself (Jn 10:11).
St. Paul says, “love both elicits virtue and expels vice, not permitting it to
spring up at all.” If vice is not expelled, but instead encouraged and fostered,
then a person lives more in sin than in love, and their salvation is at risk.
This is why St. John Chrysostom declared, “In other words, says Paul, if I have
no love, I am not just useless but a positive nuisance.”
Love doesn’t tolerate sinful desires and activities but seeks to root them out
because “it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices in the truth” (I Cor
13:6). The Venerable Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen put it this way: “Christian
love bears evil, but it does not tolerate it. It does penance for the
sins of others, but it is not broadminded about sin.” Love forgives the sinner,
and it hates the sin. It will always take back the sinner into the bosom of the
Mystical Body, but it is unmerciful to the error in his mind.
Real love also involves real hatred, for whoever has lost the power of moral indignation
– like Jesus driving the buyers and sellers from the temple – has also lost a
living, fervent love of Truth.
So, charity is not a mild philosophy
of “live and let live;” it is not a species of sloppy sentiment. Charity is the
infusion of God’s Spirit, which makes us love the beautiful and hate the
morally ugly. When the Church teaches and proclaims what is moral and what is immoral,
what is holy and what is sinful, what is right and what is wrong, what is just
and what is unjust, she is met with opposition; evil never likes to be called
out for what is. Yet, in the face of such opposition, the Church continues to
speak the truth because “love endures all things” because she does not teach
her mere opinion, but the truth she has received from Jesus Christ (I Cor
13:7).
I am thinking of the recent chilling events about the abortion legislation just
passed in the Empire State. With righteous indignation, we ask, “How can a “Catholic”
governor not only allow, but also promote and rejoice in such laws? I hope and pray
they will be challenged and defeated in civil courts. I also hope that bishops
will be able to successfully challenge, in a truly charitable way, the “Catholics”
who allowed such an abomination to reach this point.
There will be some – as there have always been – who will seek to hurl those
who speak the truth over a cliff, as they attempted with the Lord, but the
truth must still be spoken because the message of salvation in Christ must
always be proclaimed (Lk 4:29). As we seek to love in truth we must remember
the word of the Lord: “They will fight against you but will not prevail over
you, for I am with you to deliver you” (Jeremiah 1:19).
Pope Emeritus Benedict, in his Apostolic Letter “Porta Fidei,” pointed
out that “the renewal of the Church is also achieved through the witness
offered by lives of believers: by their very existence in the world, Christians
are called to radiate the word of truth that the Lord Jesus has left us.” If you and I
strive for the greatest spiritual gift, the gift of love, and seek to share
that love in everything we do by acting for the good of others, not only will
the Church be renewed, but the world also will be.
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Pastor’s Message February 3rd, 2019
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